Dealing With Issues That Are Holding You Back

January 24, 2023
69. Dealing With Issues That Are Holding You Back.

Are there things holding you back from success or the relationship you’d like to have? So how do you know exactly what it is and what you can do to make it better? Riana Milne says there is a way to overcome this, create the life you desire, and have the love you deserve.

Here are some important moments with Riana from the podcast: 

At 3:57 Riana explains the 10 traumas she has identified.

At 16:59 What is the time frame for working with people to help them “heal”?

At 21:37 What are some of the warning signs people can look for to see if their relationship has some major problems?

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/rianamilne 

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Transcript

George Siegal: 0:00

Thank you for joining me on today's Tell Us How to Make It Better podcast. We all have so many things that could be holding us back from the success in life we'd like to have. So how do you know exactly what it is that's holding you back and what you can do to make it better? My guest today has been working on this problem for over 40 years. She's worked with people from as young as six up to 76 years old. She says, past unconscious, childhood and love trauma can get in the way of our success in life, love, and. But as you'll learn today, Rihanna Milne says there's a way to overcome this. And create the life you desire and have the love you deserve. I'm George Siegal, and this is the Tell Us How to Make It Better podcast. Every week we introduce you to people who are working on real world problems and providing actual solutions. Tell Us How to Make it Better is partnering with The Readiness Lab, the home for podcasts, webinars and training in the field of emergency and disaster services. Rihanna welcome to the program.

Riana Milne: 0:58

Thank you so much for having me, George. Thank you.

George Siegal: 1:00

I appreciate you coming on. Okay, so let's get to it. What is the problem that you are working on? You've identified you're working on it, and tell us what you're doing to make it better?

Riana Milne: 1:09

Yeah, for over 40 years I've been teaching the mindset for success, and I identified after myself experiencing childhood trauma. It's a huge impact that it has in life, love and business on people of all ages. So I work with those age 16, my oldest client was 76. To heal, pass unconscious childhood trauma mindset fear-based negative mindset, and bring them into full conscious awareness and to create that life they desire and have the love they deserve by healing the trauma first and then learning the skills for success.

George Siegal: 1:49

That's, yeah, I imagine there's all kinds of, there's all kinds of childhood trauma and. You know, I talked to so many people. I made a film about parenting and I've talked to so many different people and everybody has a different remem they remember their childhood differently. If you talk to siblings, one has a different memory of how things went than the other. So what is the the, the kinds of trauma you're talking about? Because I know a lot of times people blow 'em up and then a lot of times people have horrific childhoods and...

Riana Milne: 2:13

sure. Well, I identify the top 10 childhood traumas. Now my work experience is more extended than the introduction. I worked in a mental health unit in a hospital for kids ages five through 19. I worked at every grade level in the schools from kindergarten through college, helping those with emotional upset, trauma or distress. Those identified as oppositional defiant or A D H D kids. I worked in drug and alcohol rehab centers for teens. Another one was for women from the prison system. So all ages, all cultures, all backgrounds. And then when I experienced a second love trauma and went to seven therapists, friends of mine, cuz I'm also a psychotherapist and no one could say what he has, why he sabotaged our relationship. Cause on the surface it was an incredible relationship, but he was very high risk and impulsive and I wanted to know why. So I did the research for myself and it was astonishing how his childhood life impacted him in life, love and business as an adult. And then I had to look at myself, what traumas do I have of the top? What top 10 traumas do I have? So this assessment tool has now been used around the world. It's what one of my main assessments I use. And people can easily identify, yes, I had that. No, I didn't have it. And then I explain how that shows up for them, and then it finally starts to make sense. I mean, I had a client had been seven years in therapy in one hour. I finally understand what's wrong and why.

George Siegal: 3:44

What are the. What are the 10?

Riana Milne: 3:46

Okay, let's go into that Now. First of all, remember there are more than 10. Sure. Second, all the research shows that childhood trauma goes to at least 10, I'm sorry, at least three generations. And in 2021, the research shows that 100% of us have at least one to three of the childhood traumas. We all are impacted, so this is not something about blaming our parents or feeling ashamed that we have it. It's the first thing I always say, you can't change what you don't recognize, acknowledge, or understand. So it's the first part of understanding where we're struggling by looking deeply into the past. So the top 10 that I have identified through all my work and my clients and research are. The first one is if you grow up with addiction in the family, and it's not just drugs and alcohol, there's sex addiction, meaning you knew your parent was a cheater, porn, gambling, hoarding, spending, eating, gaming. TV watching, workaholism, and computer addiction, just being on social media and ignoring the kids gaming or whatever that might look like. Okay. The second one is verbal messaging. So a, a abusive verbal messaging, such as being yelled at or watching your parents fight all the time. That's how they solve their issues. Or hearing verbal put downs, like, no, I'm not paying for college for you. You'll never make it. Or I'm not gonna waste my money or change your outfit and you look fat in that, or never hearing the words I love you, or being given compliments. So verbal messaging runs very deep. The third one is emotional abuse and neglect. The fourth one is having any sex sexual abuse, rape, or molestation that could have been inside or outside of the family. So you could have had a perfect family life, but you had a date rape, and then your trust is low when it comes to love. So there's all different scenarios. The one after that is abandonment. And there's two types. There's faults and no fault abandonment. So no fault abandonment would be an example, like your parent died early or they had to go off to serve war in our, you know, for their country. Or an example like mine, we didn't know, but my dad was James Bond. He served for the FBI and CIA and he was off and gone and we didn't know where he was and he couldn't tell the family, but that's how he supported our family. That's all no fault. A fault abandonment is never being in a child's life. Being there presently in the home, but not really attaching, like not going to the kids' school events or you know, you come from the office to dinner to your home office and basically ignore the kids. You're not emotionally attached or involved. Or after a divorce you never really see the kids much. So those are all samples of that. The next one is if you were adopted part of the foster care system or had to go live in another person's home cause your family lost your home or they couldn't keep you, so they put you in grandma's house or an aunt's house. I had a girl say, well, I didn't wanna go home. Cause there, you know, there was drinking and abuse. So me wanting to be at my girlfriend's house, does that count? I'm like, yes, that counts. You know, she didn't feel safe at home. Trauma number seven is the one that most people recognize with themselves. That's called personal trauma. So that's any way that you might have felt different. It could have been racial, cultural coming out as a gay or lesbian teen. It could have been you identified A D H D in the schools and, and the kids made fun of you or that label, or you had to be pulled outta classes. It could be many different scenarios. You were chubby, overweight child, you were skinny, and gawing called a nerd. So a lot of people can relate to trauma Number seven. Trauma eight is sibling trauma. So most common people identify with seeing their sibling as the golden child, the favored one. So the star athlete, more handsome, more beautiful. The smarter students, you know, just feeling less than compared to their sibling. Or their sibling might have had an illness and mom and dad had to spend more time with them because they needed to give them more care. Okay. Trauma nine has two parts. I had to bring down trauma 11 cuz it used to be one of the minor ones when we were growing up. So it was a number 11 place, but it's now part of nine. So nine is family and community trauma. So family trauma means your parent was incarcerated where you had to move a lot, do do the job loss or there was a lot of struggle financially involving the family. And then of course, community trauma is now one of our biggest traumas, like the hurricane damage that was just done. So any mother nature events is community trauma. Covid is an example of community trauma impact. That's gonna be a big one, community at large. So that's why in 2021 it's like everyone has suffered through covid in one way or another, you know? So anything happening to school shootings. You know, mass shootings in our community. So unfortunately, community trauma has become huge. And then the last one is mental health issues in mom or dad. And our generation, our parents really didn't go to counseling, so we kind of have to guess the two most impactful in kids to experience is one is borderline personality disorder. So I quickly define that as fast trigger anger. And when they're good, they're great, but when they're bad, they're horrid and you never know what they're gonna get. That keeps the child on eggshells and keeps them having high anxiety. And the other one is bipolar disorder, and that's manic depressive. So manic. Yeah, it's a high and happy stage, but then it's also mixed with usually something destructive like a gambling spree, a spending spree, eating binge, or, you know, drinking binge. So that is the top 10 that I've identified through the years, and then I came out with that assessment in 2012, and that's when the work began.

George Siegal: 9:40

That's a pretty all-encompassing list. Yeah.

Riana Milne: 9:43

Yeah. I did a lot of local clients in New Jersey, south Jersey, and then in Florida and Delray Beach, and then I went global in 2017.

George Siegal: 9:51

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Riana Milne: 10:25

Yeah. That's not very compassionate, is it?

George Siegal: 10:28

Well, I, I'm not pinning that on my parents. I'm talking about parents in general. It seemed like we didn't have as many things closing in on us around the world. And I guess every generation has their own.

Riana Milne: 10:37

It really depends, you know, like I experienced the death of my best childhood friend who was killed by a drunk driver and we were 16 and I begged my mom to go see a counselor and she said, no one in this family will ever go see a counselor. And my defiance. I said, then I will grow up and become one. And I did And you did, you showed her Because I needed help. So I turned to books and started studying the masters and mindset and life after death and became very spiritual. So I mean, that's how I got my healing. But of course, if your children are struggling, for our listeners out there, please get them a great coach or counselor.

George Siegal: 11:13

Absolutely. But I guess where I was going with that though is have we gone the other way, where now we're looking for a reason for everything. Somebody can't just be an asshole, somebody can't just be a bad person, you're able to delve into that and go, well, there's a reason that that person,

Riana Milne: 11:28

There's a reason. Yeah. I have a very dear friend that said, you know, my, my son is struggling because of this, this, and that, and I said, there's a reason for it. And I really broke down the traumas. And he goes, oh, wow. You know, one school kicked him out, another school didn't want 'em. I said, did he ever see a, a, a counselor about childhood trauma? You know, and he felt different in the way that he looked. So he was teased and bullied relentlessly. I said he had a lot of anger. Kids don't know how to process their anger. Their brain and their mental emotional maturity is not an adult. They don't know how to process it. So kids become either internalizers, they get quiet, shut down. Those are the kids with eating disorders or do self-mutilation and cutting. Or they're externalizers. Those are the ones angry, you know? Risky sexual behavior, you know, or hanging with a group of friends and they turn to that for companionship that are getting them in trouble. So those are the externalizers. But yeah, it's both are a cry for help.

George Siegal: 12:28

I would think. Your job has gotten more difficult over the years too. When, when I think back, you know, a hundred years ago when I was a kid, at least if you went home, you could get away from it. There was a place if it was a problem, out in the outside world. Now with social media, the, you know, the iPad, the, the iPhone, computer, it's like you can't get away from it. You can get bullied without ever leaving your house.

Riana Milne: 12:48

Yeah, yeah. I handled a lot of cyber bullying when I was in the schools and really taught the kids in the school environment how to negotiate through their problems and speak up for themselves in a powerful but calm and assertive way, you know, and help them negotiate through their problems. So, I mean, there's skills to really be taught to the kids and unfortunately the SAC counselors, student assistants, counselors seems to be the first to be laid off, but they keep the football coach, you know, so it's like, what's the matter with our school system putting so much emphasis on sports instead of mental health and mindset.

George Siegal: 13:28

We could do a whole other show on that. I know and, you know, there's not much that gets to being cynical, but when I look at, I've interviewed children who tried to commit suicide and they had traumas and things in their lives, and it's just heartbreaking when you hear that from a young person. So I imagine your work can be pretty rewarding when you can identify and then help them.

Riana Milne: 13:47

Yeah, and then the adults are the people that come to me that never settle these things for themselves, so they feel less than, they have low self-esteem, lack confidence, lack faith, and trust in themselves and in others, you know, or they people please. To get their way. They can't speak in an empowered way about their feelings. They don't feel heard. Some get jealous and controlling cuz they feel less than, that they're not pretty enough or handsome enough to keep their partner. So they're involved with jealousy and control. You know, there's a lot of different ways that this shows up in, in the adults.

George Siegal: 14:23

Which is more challenging working with young people or working with older people because I know with younger people going to therapy, a lot of 'em don't want to be there. I know you said you wanted to when you were 16 and, and, and that sounds like it would be more of an exception. Yeah. Is it easier to work with people who have identified, wow, I have a problem and I need to work on it?

Riana Milne: 14:39

I do great with kids. But it's a coaching model, not therapy. A lot of the therapists ask, so how do you feel about that? And kids don't know, right? So then they feel stupid and they don't know what to say and, and they hate sitting in the waiting room. So they love online coaching. Cuz coaching is giving them real skills to deal with the problem. It's an educational model, you know, so when my clients turn to me, I have 150 page notebook for the adults that they use to, you know, learn to get over the trauma. And to be more empowered, yet calmer and peaceful in life. So there's real skills that are taught. So kids want the answers cuz they don't know how to handle it . So I find, and even though as a therapist, I was bucking the system and coaching from day one in year 2000, I've been at this game 23 years and I coached kids in schools. I even did meditation in year 2004 and everyone thought I was a little wacky. But I knew through my research that meditation calms the anxiety. Lessens cortisol. And when cortisol or stress is high memory and learning is down. So my kids' grades went up and they, the, the teachers there, where'd you give 'em a chill pill dip back there? They're like so calm when they came back. 15 minutes of meditation is all you need. So now they're doing that on a more regular basis. But, you know, I came out with a lot of new skills, behavioral patterns. We call 'em behavioral charts to, you know, encourage good behavior and decrease the bad behavior. Because yelling and screaming does nothing except teaches your kid to yell and scream about their problems when they're older.

George Siegal: 16:13

So now on your website you talk about how you help people heal. So, so tell me about that. How, what, what's the process? What kind of time is involved in that? I mean, on when we watch TV shows that they have a breakthrough within 52 minutes and the, the person is better or they, they're not. How does it work in real life?

Riana Milne: 16:31

Right. Well, real life is, it takes a while. Trauma is stored in the brain and the body cells. So I first attach really teach around the biology of trauma. You know, so I, we do, I teach meditation. According to whatever issues they're struggling, I teach vitamin therapy and what vitamins they could use. I go into diet and eliminating chemicals out of their food and going organic. So I do everything biologically first, and then I go into analyzing their trauma and really breaking it down and seeing what some of their norms or behavioral habits are doing that is sabotaging them or, you know, stops them from having sustainable relationships. Love partners or, you know, sabotages them in dating or gives them so much fear around dating or relationships. So we get down to the bottom of that and then I start teaching mindset and, you know, there's so many skills that I teach. Like I said, I, it's a workbook model, so they fill out the pages, they give it to me from what they wrote, which we call biblia therapy. I then know how to teach'em what they need. So it's very individualized. I mean, I do have a group, but I won't take even more than 16 because I want everyone to have a personal transformation. And so it's very individualized based on what they have experienced or trauma and what they're experiencing as an adult. So, but mindset is very powerful and it's a huge part of what I've been teaching, like I said, for over 40 years. For example, I had a model and talent. I had a a plus size model come to me named Jennifer, and she goes, I really wanna do this. You think I can do it? I said, yes. She goes, well, my family says, don't waste your money. Look in the mirror. You're fat. No one will ever hire you as a model. So these are the messages that people come to me with, and I said, Jen, with my help, can we get you from a size 23 to a size 16? She goes, I'll do anything just to prove them wrong. I said, perfect. That's what we call the watch me mindset for success. Then I taught her all the skills she needed to lose the weight, and she ended up with sports special sizes, making a ton of money. You know, so this is what I do. I, I eliminate those fears at the negative messaging, teach 'em these skills they need to succeed in whatever their desire in life is. So if it's modeling, acting, singing, dancing, I mean, my own daughter, you know, sings on three multi-platinum CDs as a with a top singer. And her father says, you think you can sing? That's an effing joke. You can't sing. You know, so she had to stop those messages and we said, let's, what can we do to get you there? And the world just aligned. I met this top artist in a nightclub in Miami. You know, I, at the time, she was interviewing with Timberland, a top producer, and then Rodney Jerkins, another top record producer, producer for Michael Jackson. Right in our hometown of Atlantic City area, . So, I mean, it just aligned and she got picked up, you know, she got three offers, but the first one she took. And you know, so how do you encourage kids or adults, and I don't care what the age is, you know, to go for their goals and dreams and it's all mindset what they believe they can achieve. So it's really important to learn the mindset, to heal the trauma.

George Siegal: 19:47

My documentary film, the one about parenting was called License to Parent, and it was a metaphor for, you know, bad parenting, but the idea of a license. When you talk about a parent telling their kid they're too fat to do something, or they're not talented enough to do something that's unbelievable in their dreams. Yeah,

Riana Milne: 20:06

I mean my daughter was watching tv. She was five watching Save the Children commercial in Africa. She goes, mom, I'm gonna go save those kids one day. And I said, baby, I believe you will cuz you're smart and you have a heart of gold. She now has 21 water wells in Tanzania, Africa, that she started at age 20.

George Siegal: 20:23

Wow.

Riana Milne: 20:24

That's because I taught her, she can believe in whatever it is that she wants to do. So I just do the same thing with my adults. And then we go for their goals and dreams. We do a lot of goal setting and the exact path to get their goals and dreams accomplished. And then we go into the love and relationship part second.

George Siegal: 20:42

Now with Since we can't solve everybody's problem in 30 minutes, , if you had to give people some like and and encapsulated and say, okay, here's some warning signs. Here's some things you should look at that this is an indication that you're destroying this relationship, or you're keeping yourself from having a relationship. What would be some of the warning signs people might look forward to go, wow, I, I gotta do something about that?

Riana Milne: 21:05

Well, I think everyone knows what toxic now means. I was using that world early on and people had no idea what I meant by a toxic relationship, but it makes you physically feel ill. So you have stomach aches headaches, irritable bowel syndrome. You can't sleep, you eat, can't eat, you're overeat, you're over drinking. You feel helpless. You can't speak your feelings. You get yelled at, you're abused emotionally, financially, sexually. There's all kind of abuses. You can't attach you're afraid to attach. So those are all the negatives. So what are we aiming for and what is the emotionally healthy evolved relationship look like? I can tell you from a page, from my book, love Beyond Your Dreams, and that's we start with a five Fs, which is a solid foundation, which is ability to trust yourself and the other person. You have confidence in who you are as a person. I have this one assessment tool that's free on my website. Are you really ready for a relationship? And we score one to 10 and we look at everything that's a seven or less and fix those first before they go out and date. A lot of people heard, get back out there on the saddle, you know, if you fell off and you lost a relationship and they go out like dating wounded, and that's one of the worst things you can do cause you're more vulnerable. So you want to be really individually ready. Flexible meaning you're open-minded to communication, understanding, empathy, and you allow your partner to have their own opinion, vaccine or not. Let them have their opinion, which president let them have their opinion without trying to control their decision. The third one is fidelity, which is honesty, loyalty, and integrity. So you are doing the right things when nobody's looking, because if you don't, it's gonna impact not only you, but your partner and the relationship. The next F is friendship. The relationship should be grounded in friendship. He is your buddy, your friend. You get along great. You have a lot of laughter. You respect each other. You're reliable, you're supportive of each other's goals and dreams, like your best friend. Fun. You have have to have common interests, you know, hanging out together, have a lot of joy. Not that you have to do everything together, but you have to have enough together. So that's the glue. The intimacy is well balanced, a balance of deep friendship and love. Daily affection and the ability to compromise. You know, you have to be able to talk through your issues. And I teach a lot of communication skills cause these skills were never taught to us. They weren't modeled by our families, they weren't taught to us in high school, college, or even in my triple masters of psychology, unfortunately. So I do a lot of communication skills. Because I think that's really important. And balanced individuals each are very happy People with their own life, they have no cheap drama. They've taken care of all that, or they're working proactively on it and believe it. They're not number one technique to have a good, solid relationship with spirituality. You both share the common morals and values with each other. It's not religion, it's spirituality, which you practice 24/7.

George Siegal: 24:06

I've talked to people that when they've had different issues in a relationship and then they've ended up getting married eventually, that's what imploded them. Things rarely get better once you're married. If you had a problem beforehand, maybe that would, those are signs or things you need to work on.

Riana Milne: 24:21

Yeah, that's usually not true. Things get a lot worse. Abuse gets a lot worse with marriage, you know, so I do have people come to me for premarital coaching as well before they decide if they see they're struggling, or especially if there's a blended family and the kids are struggling and acting out they don't like the partner, then you really should get some coaching around that before the marriage takes place.

George Siegal: 24:44

Yeah, that, that, that goes with parenting too. I think if parents had to take a test or fill out an application to see if they were qualified to get the job, a lot of people would not be given children.

Riana Milne: 24:53

Yeah, well, we didn't learn those skills, which is unfortunate. And when I have a client in front of me that's struggling because they were abused in their marriage, I can guarantee it the child is struggling. So I have to teach the parent to heal and then give them the tools to help their kids to heal. And it's, it's incredible how that works. Once they know what to do and they're, they're really having open and honest and loving conversations with their kids and they're no longer punishing or yelling and they're teaching, you know, the word discipline is from the Bible. It means to teach. Is supposed to teach your kids what to do. Cause they are not supposed to know better. They're not, you know, they're the little people and their brains aren't mature enough to know better. So it's our job to model the right things and to teach them the right things. And...

George Siegal: 25:41

You think you can fix anybody?

Riana Milne: 25:43

What's that?

George Siegal: 25:44

Do you believe you can fix anybody? Do you think there's, like, are some people just, I, I can't fix that person, I can't help them? Or do you think if you get in there you can solve most of these issues?

Riana Milne: 25:53

Yes. They just have to really want the transformation. Like if they quit the program or they do do their exercises, then they've quit on themselves. So as long as they're doing the workbook with me and they show up for their sessions, we have a complete transformation. It's really amazing. In module two, outta 10, they do this wheel of life, like where are they now On friendships, finances. Job satisfaction. They rate themselves in 14 different areas of life. Then at the end, I said, let's go back and look at your wheel. And they rescored like, this is amazing. I have over 90 in all areas, you know, and then there might be one or two they didn't get to in four to six months. So then we do this next six month goals and have them focus on those things. So this is always then having them grow and transform into that life that they really want and desire.

George Siegal: 26:42

Should a good relationship really not be a ton of work though? If you have to work too hard at it, is it maybe something you shouldn't be in?

Riana Milne: 26:48

When it's hard, it means there's just skills to be learned for both partners. When I work with couples, I do both singles and couples. I have three entities. I have to help partner aid heal from their trauma. Partner B and three, the relationship. So I work with both straight and LGBTQ couples. It doesn't matter. It's the same information. So when they're struggling so much, this is a clear sign that childhood trauma is still existing. When I can get the trauma healed in both partners and tell them what they're doing, that they are pushing each other's buttons and causing emotional triggers and how to stop that and be more empathetic and kind and loving and more friendly to their partner, things change. I just can't have somebody quit. Now, most of us therapists know if a couple comes in and somebody's in a full-fledged affair, they'll probably do two or three sessions and say to their kids, well, we tried counseling and it didn't work. Well they had no intention of having it work. It was just an excuse. So we already know that. So it is the dedication of the party in front of me. If they're dedicated, I know I can help them.

George Siegal: 27:55

All right, so what are the best ways people can follow you on social media? Get your books, take your quiz. What's the best.

Riana Milne: 28:02

Okay. The best way is my website. It's my name riana milne . com. And on there there is a first free 60 pages of both live and Love Beyond Your Dreams. Live is about the mindset for success and love is about healthy relationships, and they are meant to go together cuz you can't have one without the other. Okay, so that's imperative. There's four free love tests you can take. There's the free e-book to download, how to Have the Love You Deserve, and I have a podcast called Lessons in Life and Love with Coach Riana Milne. I have 115 shows in like 250 videos on my YouTube channel, so there's a lot of free information you can get started with, and I do offer a great promotion on a private meeting with me for 90 minutes called The Life and Love transformation discovery session where again, we look at the past and see where you're struggling presently and bridge that, and then what would be the next best move to have you move forward.

George Siegal: 28:57

All right. And of course this will all be in the show notes. I'll put a, I got a list of your links. I'll put 'em in there, so Okay. People can reach out and find you. Rihanna, thank you so much for coming on today. A lot of great information.

Riana Milne: 29:06

Thanks, George. Thanks for having me. I hope it was helpful.

George Siegal: 29:09

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